The recent wave of harassment allegations has increasingly exposed the way a distinct power imbalance can blur the boundary of consent. If you acquiesced at the time, but feel sick thinking about it now? The Cut spoke with five women who are seeing their experiences with bosses, mentors, or teachers differently today. There are a few common threads: The women were all under 22 when the relationships began; they were approached by men who were older, sometimes by decades; and they considered their relationships to be consensual at the time.
What I Learned from Sleeping with My Boss
I slept with my boss and now it’s awkward | Getting to TRUE Love
There are few relationships that force you to confront issues of power, sexuality, gender, legality and reputation as much as sleeping with your boss. It's fraught territory, but it seems that doesn't stop us from going there. Hierarchical workplace romances are more frequent than relationships between colleagues who are equals. You can read more about why here. We found two people willing to spill the beans on their experiences of sleeping with the boss and to share their advice. We lived in the same neighbourhood, so we started to have late nights, which ended with us stumbling home. If anything, I enjoyed feeling like I was teasing and provoking her.
I slept with my boss and now it's awkward
We love a good sex confession as much as the next guy - and these workplace sex confessions prove sex with a colleague or boss can be super hot. Here, people who've hooked up with someone from and even, in! I trained him, so we talked here and there. He invited me out for drinks after work and we ended up having sex at my pool, then my place, and it went on for several weeks.
I'd also broken up with my boyfriend of six years two months earlier, and I hadn't been on a date since. I was immediately struck by how much cuter he was in person than via Skype we'd only done video interviews up until that point since he was based in the company's Chicago office. Though I would have to be blind not to notice how attractive he was, I told myself he was off-limits since he was my boss. He said, "Yeah, some of my friends got married so they could have sex," Justin said.