Psychologist Robyn Salisbury helps a reader with a relationship dilemma. I get too wet when I'm turned on during sex and that means my partner just slips in and out and I can hardly feel him. He says it's not a problem and he still gets pleasure. I think he's got an average sized penis and he gets very hard so it's not him. I'm too embarrassed to ask my doctor. Is there an operation to make my vagina entrance smaller so I can at least feel what's happening or are there exercises I can do?
Dear Mrs Salisbury: I get too wet during sex
Ask Dr West: I feel like I get too wet during sex, what can I do?
For women and people with vulvas, getting wet doesn't just happen during sexual activity. In fact, vaginas lubricate themselves pretty regularly. But, when you commence any kind of sexual activity and are feeling turned on, the Bartholin and Skene glands get to work and start producing more natural lubrication. This is a perfectly normal, biological and physiological response to being aroused. It's good and healthy, and makes sex in any form more pleasurable.
Why is my vagina wet?
The vagina is a mucous membrane, which means that the skin and tissue of a healthy vagina are always moist. Many factors can affect how much fluid the vagina produces. Typically, the inside of the vagina feels slightly wet. The vagina may feel very wet during arousal, while menopause can cause vaginal dryness. Vaginal fluids are essential for keeping the vagina healthy and for making sexual activity comfortable.
We got a few questions from our readers about wetness down there and went straight to the expert, certified sex therapist Dr. Janet Brito, for answers. The glands in your cervix and vaginal wall create essential lubrication to protect your genital area from injury or tearing, and keep your vagina clean and moist. Depending on where you are in your cycle and hormone levels, the amount of cervical fluid could vary. Keep in mind that this fluid, or something similar, also appears during sex.